- We control ourselves - we keep it in and become self-sufficient (if no one else sees how vulnerable we are then nothing bad will happen to us)
- We control others - if we can keep a tap on others then nothing bad will happen
- We don't trust ourselves and we don't trust others. After all, trusting means letting go and how can we if we are feeling unsafe?
- We avoid living life, taking risks and doing things that we could have dreamt of. What if something goes wrong?
Key#1 - Recognizing when you are feeling unsafe
Key#2: Congratulate yourself
Key#3: Evaluate and Relax with affirmations
* "we are safe"
* "this feeling of unsafety is coming from the past and it's not needed"
Key#4: Find Assurance in love
Hi, I am Ruby Usman, Founder of Healing Wounds Together – A Platform for Female Adults who have experienced sexual abuse in their childhood.
I have lived with abuse for many years of my life. And I have spent many more decades in understanding, recovering and becoming whole again. From my own journey, I have learned valuable lessons not only for myself but for others that were around me and now I have made it my mission to:
* Help the abused take charge of their own healing
* Empower partners of the female survivors
* Help prevent sexual childhood abuse
If this resonates with you, check out my website at www.healingwoundstogether.com, sign up for my blogs and connect with me on these social media sites.